In this episode, Dr. Eric Osansky tackles a challenge many people with hyperthyroidism face: helping friends and family truly understand their condition and treatment choices. Whether you’re dealing with Graves’ disease or another form of hyperthyroidism, explaining what’s happening in your body—and why you’re taking a natural approach—can feel overwhelming.
You’ll learn how to navigate tough conversations about treatment choices, including medication, diet changes, and natural healing approaches. Dr. Eric shares practical ways to set boundaries, communicate your needs, and handle skepticism—while staying focused on your healing journey. If you want a clearer, more balanced understanding of how to advocate for yourself and explain hyperthyroidism with confidence, you’ll get a lot out of this episode.
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Dr. Eric Osansky:
Hyperthyroidism isn’t something that most people are familiar with. Think back before your diagnosis. Chances are, you probably didn’t know anything about hyperthyroidism. If someone was in your shoes, you probably wouldn’t understand what they were going through.
When someone chooses to take a natural approach, it’s not uncommon for friends and family members to question the person’s decision. After all, shouldn’t your endocrinologist know what’s best for you? Of course, it’s easy for them to have this perspective when they are not the ones being pressured to receive radioactive iodine or thyroid surgery.
The goal of this episode is to help you communicate your hyperthyroid condition clearly and confidently and help your family and friends better understand why you are choosing to save your thyroid.
Let’s start off by discussing what hyperthyroidism actually is. This is what you would convey to your family and friends. You could explain to them that the thyroid gland regulates metabolism and energy. In hyperthyroidism, the thyroid becomes overactive.
If you want to, you could even compare hyper versus hypothyroidism. Hypothyroidism is a lot more common. There is a chance maybe one of your family members or friends has hypothyroidism. With hypothyroidism, the thyroid hormone levels are low. Typically, that will lower metabolism. In hyperthyroidism, it speeds everything up. Everything is overactive. Essentially, the body runs too fast. It’s like your body’s engine is stuck in overdrive.
You could go on to explain some of the common symptoms associated with hyperthyroidism. You might not have all of these, so feel free to be specific to your symptoms. Some of the more common symptoms: rapid heart rate, which I definitely dealt with when I had Graves’ heart palpitations; anxiety; fatigue.
Fatigue, wired versus tired. You might not want to explain this part. Hyperthyroidism puts a lot of stresson the mitochondria, which are the energy powerhouses of the cells. Or you can. It’s up to you. Fatigue is also common. Some people, especially in this day and age, where they might look things up on Google or ChatGPT and say, “With hyperthyroidism, fatigue is not really a classic symptom.” As I mentioned, it does put a lot of stress on the body, the mitochondria, so it’s not uncommon to experience fatigue.
Quite frankly, when I dealt with Graves’, I felt more wired than tired. Everyone is different.
Weight changes. This is different. When I dealt with Graves’, I lost 42 pounds. I lost a lot of weight. Many of my patients lose weight. It’s not uncommon for people to gain weight, too. This is where it might become confusing. If they look up hyperthyroidism, and you’re not losing weight, they might not understand. I do have some episodes on the podcast that you could show them.
Sleep problems are very common. Just because of the elevation in thyroid hormone.Sometimes, it causes heat intolerance, which can also cause sleep problems.
Increased bowel movements. Hair loss. There are a number of symptoms. Feel free to explain them. Even though they can look it up, chances are they won’t take the initiative to do so.
If you have Graves’, then you probably want to tell them that Graves’ is the most common cause of hyperthyroidism. It’s more of an immune system condition. It’s actually an autoimmune condition. A lot of people are familiar with autoimmunity these days. You could mention that it’s where the immune system attacks the thyroid, specifically the TSH receptors of the thyroid gland, which results in too much thyroid hormone.
If you have a different hyperthyroid condition, try your best to explain this. If you have toxic multinodular goiter, that involves swelling of the thyroid, which is a goiter. You could also let them know that it involves multiple thyroid nodules. I don’t think you have to get into detail about thyroid nodules. You could tell them they are little bumps on the thyroid, little growths, in an easy-to-understand way. Essentially, it’s an enlargement of the thyroid gland, or thyroid swelling, and multiple bumps on the thyroid.
With toxic multinodular goiter, you have too much thyroid hormone. I would focus more on the hyperthyroidism part than the goiter and the nodules.
There are others, like subclinical hyperthyroidism. Most of the concern will be with Graves’ and toxic multinodular goiter. Subacute thyroiditis is very prominent, but it’s temporary. Usually, the person will eventually become hypothyroid.
Let’s talk about focusing more on Graves’. Most people listening to this have Graves’. Not everybody. With Graves’, you want to talk about that immune system. You don’t get into cytokines and all these other things, which you might not even be familiar with either. I don’t expect everybody listening to this to know the nuts and bolts when it comes to the immune system. It involves immune system dysregulation.
You could talk about some of the triggers briefly. I mention the four main categories of triggers are food, stress, toxins/toxicants, and infections. The goal is to find and remove those triggers. The symptoms could fluctuate, and they vary. You could look up hyperthyroidism online, and your symptoms may not match all the symptoms online. Everybody is different.
The point is, by talking to them about the triggers, they will understand it takes time. Healing takes time. Your goal is not just to put a band-aid on this; your goal is not just to take the medication. Maybe you’re choosing to take antithyroid medication or beta blockers, but you want to do more than that. You want to heal.
When it comes to symptoms, as I mentioned, symptoms can differ, and they can be confusing. Feeling exhausted, with that wired but tired feeling. Voracious appetite, they might be seeing you eat all the time, but you might also be losing weight. Not everyone does. If you are losing weight, yet you are eating all the time, again, it’s the increased metabolism. Anxiety that is more than psychological, that is also important.
Letting them know that many of your symptoms are physical, not just emotional. There aredefinitely psychological aspects with Graves’, but there are also the physiological aspects. Even things like Graves’ rage, there is a physical component. It’s not all emotional or psychological.
It’s important to convey this to your friends and family, so they understand it’s not just stress. That is of course a factor. You may be feeling chronically stressed. Stress can be a factor in causing hyperthyroidism. When you’re dealing with these conditions, you may be even more stressed out. This is going beyond just stress. There is that physiological component.
Healing, as I just mentioned, takes time. If someone takes antithyroid medication, that could work quickly. Within a few days or weeks, they might feel a lot better. There are side effects that are common, which not everybody experiences. If someone is taking antithyroid medication, you might expect in many cases to get quick results.
If you are taking a more natural symptom management approach, like taking bugleweed, motherwort, or L-carnitine, it could take more time. You might have to explain to them that the medications are harsh on the body.
If you’re listening to this and taking medication, I work with a lot of people who take the meds. I even though I personally didn’t take the meds, I have nothing against the meds. I am giving both sides of the story.
If you are taking medication, and it’s helping, let them know. This might offer them some comfort. Yes, you are not doing everything naturally; you’re trying some things conventionally.
If you’re like me, where you are not taking any medication, then explain to them that the reason you decided not to take the medication is because first of all, side effects are very common with antithyroid medication, and you could describe some of those. It could put stress on the liver, lower white blood cell counts, affect the gut microbiome. They could search online as well. You’re not making this up.
Also, you have known people like yourself and others who have successfully managed their symptoms naturally through herbal medicine. L-carnitine is not an herb. You could say natural agents (bugleweed, lemon balm, motherwort). They might not understand if it’s a few weeks into the treatment, and you’re still showing many of the signs and symptoms. You need to let them know, especially if you’re taking a full natural approach and not taking medication, that it could take some time.
You could let them know that, assuming you have Graves’, it involves the immune system. Even if you don’t have Graves’, you have to focus on improving adrenals. You need to improve gut health and nutrient deficiencies. You need to find and remove triggers.
Like I said, if you’re taking medication such as methimazole or PTU or beta blockers, let them know that. They might feel more comfortable that you’re taking medication. It depends. I work with people whose family members might be on the first consultation call with them, and they’re all supportive. It’s not like family are never supportive. If you have a spouse or other family who aren’t supportive, and you are taking medication, they probably will be happy that you’re doing so.
If they are more naturally mindset, they might not be supportive. But it is your body. It is your decision. You could cut to the chase and say, “It’s my body. It’s my decision.” But I think it’s important to help them understand, to try to decrease tension.
Let them know that whatever approach you’re taking from a symptom management perspective, whether it’s medication or natural agents, you’re doing things to help control the thyroid hormone levels, reduce cardiovascular symptoms. Managing the symptoms is different from addressing the cause of the problem.
Then there is diet. For a lot of people, this is a big factor. For example, if someone is working with me, and their spouse is not fully on board, they might question why you need to follow a restrictive diet. Nobody likes restrictive diets. I don’t even like that term. It’s an elimination diet. We’re eliminating certain things or restricting certain things, but the foods you are allowed to eat, you can eat a good amount of these foods. I don’t like that term, “restrictive diet,” but it can be restrictive.
Like I said, diet can be more difficult to communicate to some people. When you’re avoiding foods that are healthy, eggs are not part of an AIP diet. If you’ve read my book The Hyperthyroid Healing Diet, the level 3 diet, which is a modified AIP diet. Eggs are excluded, not because they’re unhealthy. You might need to mention that eggs are healthy. Tomatoes have some health benefits. But eggs are a common allergen, and tomatoes have compounds that could in some people be inflammatory, especially with autoimmune conditions.
Especially if you have Graves’, you might want to point this out. Most people do fine with both eggs and tomatoes. With certain autoimmune conditions, these foods sometimes can increase inflammation. You can say they negatively affect the gut. Whatever is easy for you to communicate.
Like I said, it’s challenging. In some cases, when a significant other isn’t supportive, the person I am working with may end up making two meals, which can be stressful. I’ll talk more about that.
Feel free to let them know about my book The Hyperthyroid Healing Diet. If they’re not on board, they probably won’t want to read it, but it might offer them some reassurance that there is a book on it. If you have a physical copy, it’s pretty thick. It’s not like it’s short; it’s close to 500 pages. It’s quite comprehensive.
When it comes to limitations, everybody is different. When I dealt with Graves’, I felt like I, for the most part, could do what I had to do. I didn’t feel like I couldn’t do my daily tasks. For some people, energy levels are dramatically affected. They might not be able to go to work and do whatever job you’re doing. You could let them know some days you have energy, other days you don’t. Stress associated with your job really flares things up, worsens your symptoms. You need more sleep, which is important for recovery.
You want to communicate all these things. You might think it’s common sense, but they might not understand. They might not understand even when you communicate this. You need to make the effort. You need to explain that healing often requires lifestyle changes. Obviously, diet changes; stress management; getting proper sleep.
Ideally, you want to get support from your family members and friends, especially family members. Anyone who lives in the household, you could let them know that they need to be patient with your recovery. Understand fatigue. Help reduce your stress, not increase it. Respecting any dietary changes you make.
You could tell them it’s not helpful if they minimize the symptoms you have, saying, “You look fine. It doesn’t look like anything’s wrong with you.” That’s the case with many autoimmune conditions or other health conditions. At least, initially, many people do look fine.
In my case, when I lost 42 pounds, I didn’t look fine, but it did take time for me to reach that point. Not everybody will lose weight to begin with, let alone that much weight. Some people look normal.
Obviously, if someone has thyroid eye disease with Graves’, and it’s moderate to severe, then you know something’s wrong, and it’s not just a psychological thing.
You could obviously show people your lab results if you want to. If it’s a significant other, they may see them anyway. They may go to the doctor’s appointment with you, which might not be a good thing.
Most endocrinologists aren’t going to be supportive of natural treatment options. You will need to explain that is the training they have in medical school. There are functional medicine practitioners and natural health care practitioners who open their minds and realize that there is a cause of the problem.
Getting back to what’s not helpful, mocking dietary choices, making the spouse or significant other cook two separate meals every single night for dinner.
Set boundaries when necessary. You need to do what’s necessary to heal. Protect your energy. Avoid unnecessary debates with your family and friends. Ultimately, it does come down to it’s your body, so it’s your decision.
You might not want to start with that. You might not want to be confrontational, but if you do everything you can to communicate this to them, and they still don’t understand, then you might just need to draw the line still and do what’s necessary to focus on your healing.
Let them know, “I appreciate your concern. This is something I truly believe in. We have a thyroid gland for a reason. I’m going to do everything I can to save my thyroid, and I am working with this other practitioner.”
If you go to an endocrinologist initially, and your significant other is with you, and your endocrinologist says, “It’s Graves’. There is no cure for it other than removing your thyroid or getting radioactive iodine. If you don’t do that, you’re at risk of thyroid storm, going to the ER.” They will use these scare tactics.
Not to say there is not risk. We know there is risk. They won’t bring up the risks of radioactive iodine or thyroid surgery though. Not that they don’t know, but they may not know if they don’t look it up. The endocrinologist won’t bring it up. Youcould bring it up to the endocrinologist.
The truth is the endocrinologist will be defensive. “The risks are low. It’s definitely more risky to deal with the hyperthyroidism.” Again, they are an authority figure to most people. If your family or friends are more medically oriented,they will buy into what the endocrinologist says.
You have to stand up for yourself if that’s the case and let them know, “I understand you care about me. I could always get the radioactive iodine or the surgery. Once I make that decision, there is no turning back.” The thyroid gland is very important. “Sure, I could get my thyroid removed and be on thyroid hormone permanently,” but the research clearly shows that if someone has one autoimmune condition, there is a greater likelihood of developing other autoimmune conditions in the future.
If you have a non-autoimmune thyroid condition, you could still say, “This is not addressing the cause of the problem. Yes, I could get my thyroid removed, but I’m still at risk of having other health issues. If I develop toxic multinodular goiter, and I am not doing anything to improve my health. If I do things to improve my health, by following a natural treatment protocol, and things don’t get better, I could always get radioactive iodine or surgery. I will do things to manage my symptoms in the meantime. Again, I want to be able to live with my decision if I go that route.”
Hopefully, you’re listening to this because you want to save your thyroid. Explain to them that you’re not completely opposed, maybe even if you are. When I dealt with Graves’, I didn’t even think about surgery or radioactive iodine. I was open to taking medication. I’m not saying under no circumstances I wouldn’t have received thyroid surgery, but I was trying to do everything to avoid surgery and radioactive iodine.
I will start wrapping this up by reminding you that there are resources that are not only for you but for others. There is this podcast. You could have themlisten to this episode if you want to. You could talk to them, but if you’re still arguing, maybe have them listen to this. Maybe have them listen to some other episodes about healing. That is what the podcast is about.
There are also books out there, including mine, about addressing hyperthyroidism naturally. They know it is possible. You could visit my website and show them some testimonials I have on there. If they’d rather read than listen, but they don’t want to read the book, I also have my new Healing Graves’ Naturally newsletter on Substack. You can refer them to that. A lot of the articles will help those with other thyroid conditions besides Graves’.
Remember, you’re not alone. I understand it can be challenging to explain hyperthyroidism and why you chose to take a natural approach to others, which is why I decided to put together this episode.
Some people don’t want to hear it. They were brought up with that medical mindset. No matter what you say, they will take the side of the endocrinologist. In that case, all you can do is stand up for yourself. Education and communication are important and can improve understanding. Some people will sway them, or at least make them understand and respect your decision. If not, you need to do what you need to do to save your thyroid.
In the case of family, this might be difficult. In the case of friends, if it comes down to it, and you have one or two close friends who are not on board and really making you feel bad about your decision, you might need to take a break. I am not saying to end the friendship; that’s up to you. But maybe you need a break. Even family, if it’s not someone in the household, maybe you distance yourself a little bit while healing.
You want to have that positive mindset. You don’t want to have the negativity every single day. You don’t want someone telling you you need to do radioactive iodine or surgery every day. If you’re managing your symptoms naturally, you need to take the medication. You don’t want to have someone telling you this day in, day out, or even a few days a week, if you are trying to take a natural approach.
Hopefully, you found this episode to be valuable. Appreciate you listening as usual. Of course, I look forward to catching you in the next episode.
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Explaining Graves’ and other types of hyperthyroidism, you don’t have to get into great detail. Especially with Graves’, you need to let them know that it is an autoimmune condition, which more and more people are becoming familiar with, just because they are so common.
If you have a different type of hyperthyroid condition, you can get into the basics. Tell them that you have an enlarged thyroid gland with multiple nodules.
It’s about addressing the cause of the problem. The issue with conventional medicine is that with Graves’, when you go to an endocrinologist, they don’t do anything for the immune system component. You want to make sure you communicate this to your friends and family.
Explaining common triggers. Talking about how there are underlying causes for this. Let’s say your significant other needs some convincing, and you bring them to the endocrinologist. The endocrinologist is going to say that there is no underlying cause that we know of. It might be a challenge to convince your significant other, family, or friend that there is an underlying cause.
Maybe it’s by having them listen to my podcast or read my book. There are other sources out there, too. I’m not the only one talking about hyperthyroidism. Admittedly, there are not as many practitioners talking about hyperthyroidism as there are with hypothyroidism.
Explaining side effects of other treatments. Antithyroid medication has a time and place, but side effects are common. A lot of people who work with me take antithyroid medication, so I’m not against it. If you do take it, that’s fine. Tell them that you’re taking the medication to be safe while addressing the cause of the problem.
If you’re taking a natural symptom management approach like bugleweed or higher amounts of L-carnitine, show them the research. I have podcast episodes that talk about bugleweed and L-carnitine.
Radioactive iodine and thyroid surgery are extreme procedures. They know this, but you might need toremind them that you could always get the surgery or the radioactive iodine. There are side effects associated with these, so you want to try your best to avoid these.
If it’s Graves’ and autoimmune, you could tell them that if you have one autoimmune condition, you’re at greater risk of developing other autoimmune conditions in the future, according to the research. Radioactive iodine and thyroid surgery do nothing for that autoimmune component.
Explaining the diet you choose to follow. This could be very challenging. I discussed this in the episode. They probably won’t read my book, which by the way, I checked, it’s actually closer to 400 pages, not 500. You could have them listen to the podcast.
To us, it makes sense. Diet is important. For some people, it doesn’t make sense. Ultimately, it’s up to you to follow the diet, to block out time for stress management, to get sufficient sleep, regardless of whether your friends and family are supportive. That being said, I would try your best to explain the importance. Maybe show them some of the resources.
Finally, letting them know that even though you plan on doing everything you can to save your thyroid, conventional treatment is always an option. Once again, maybe you’re already taking antithyroid medication. If your endocrinologist is pressuring you to get radioactive iodine or thyroid surgery, and your friends and family are also thinking about that for you as the main options, tell them, once you get these procedures, there is no turning back. You want to be comfortable with your decision.
This is your body. It’s easy for them to say to get the radioactive iodine or surgery when it’s not them who’s getting it. Tell them, “I am considering it.” When I dealt with Graves’, I was not considering it. But if it eases some tension, you could say you are considering it. Right now, you are going to do everything you can to save your thyroid.
I really hope you found this episode to be valuable, especially if you are having difficulties explaining hyperthyroidism to your friends and family. Explaining you are choosing to save your thyroid, to take that natural treatment approach to address the underlying cause of the problem.
As usual, I look forward to catching you in the next episode.

